A little background – I am innocent. I was accused and that was enough to start in motion a process that was impossible to stop. I was lied to by my accuser, “victim”, friends, OC Sheriffs and OC District Attorney. I was tricked into saying a few words that were considered a “confession”. OC Sheriffs lied to, assaulted and threatened my accuser to force her “cooperation”. During a later pre-trial, in open court, my accuser and “victim” both recanted. It did not matter. I plead to one felony count on advise of my attorney who told me that I could not win (98% conviction rate in Orange County). I spent over five years on probation and in “therapy” after six months of confinement in a half way house.
Now, to the point.
FEAR – My family and I tremble in fear when we see any law enforcement personnel. I know them to be liars and thugs. To me, they are nothing more than a street gang with guns and badges. It is unfortunate, because I realize the need for their function in society, but seeing the mean spirited, mindless brutality and bullying sickens me. We do not answer our door nor answer our phone unless we can identity the caller. I stay away from public gatherings of any sort which means I do not accompany my family anywhere. I will not make eye contact with women or children, turning my back to them if possible. I will not carry a camera. As a result of being interrogated when returning from out of the county, I will no longer travel internationally. I fear for my families safety and wonder which neighbors “know”.
Lost Opportunity – While on probation, I was denied the opportunity to attend my father’s funeral. My daughter married at OC Courthouse rather than have a large wedding to which I would have been forbidden. I could not attend my stepson’s graduation. The children are not allowed to have friends over to our home and are not to go to others homes (the rule of my wife and I).
I am self employed, so I have not had the issues of many others who wear the “label”. It breaks my heart to see all the quality people who are denied employment. I have seen college educated, contributing people suffering and unable to do that for which they have trained their whole lives. That is contribute to society, support their family and pursue happiness. What a waste to society!
For myself, I have lost the ability to get credit and financing. I have had my name and sex offender status tied to my business showing up on internet searches. I have multiple patents and successes but “sex offender” shows up first. It is probably just a matter of time before I lose my business as suppliers and customers start making the connection.
Observations – I have sympathy for those who have lost children. I pray I never have to live the experience. I also know that the damage done by these “revenge” laws will not ease their pain. Heaven help them when they realize all the innocent blood on their hands.
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