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Living with 290

Living with 290: Will I ever get my life back?

I made a mistake and now everyone knows it even people that don’t know me. I have had person show up to where I work to beat me up because they seen me on the website. I didn’t work there anymore thank God. Still that is messed up. I have missed out on many jobs in my life because of it. I know I did the crime so I have to pay for it but why is there no way for me for me to stop repay my debt.

I did what I did when I was 19 now I just turned 31. I have been off parole for years now. I just live my life I’ve been lucky and found a woman who loves me dearly we’re married and I have a son with one on the way. I don’t know how what I have done will effect his life. I just want him to grow up being proud of me and who knows what will happen. How do I tell him and when. I just want to live a regular life take to ball games, coach his little league team but I can’t . It worries me what happens when they have friends what do I have to tell they’re parents then what. I don’t know what will happen. I just pray for change and maybe one day people will realize that people do change people change everyday but that doesn’t apply to sex offenders. I guess.

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I have nothing but empathy; I feel the same as you and I often wonder some of the same things. My “crime” didn’t involve a child, an adult, or another human being for that matter; it was what I can only describe as a thought “crime.” Yet I’m treated as though I’m a mentally deranged psychopath with nefarious intentions towards little photogenic cute white girls; only. I think the paradox is that the deceived public and the public dis servants are the ones that display the sociopathic personality traits we are constantly accused of. They are so wrapped up in… Read more »

Q, you are so right. People attack that which they fear in themselves. Instead of embracing their own demons and becoming self aware, they shut off sides of their existence that are better brought to light. I know. If I had confronted my demon, and also was helped along by a society that looked to the understanding first, not blame and shame first, I might not be where I am now. I would not be surprised if the current war on sex offenders is not just driving people into denial and making things worst. I believe the re-offense rate is… Read more »

Can RSOL. OK so my computer put in a word I didn’t intend. Nonetheless, I thought about it and have a new name for you all: Yes We Can Reform Sex Offender Laws.

Letter to my pastor Kenton Beshore: Hello Kenton Beshore and my Mariner’s family. About standing against evil…It’s the ears to hear eyes to see thing. There are many forms of not hearing. One is not being at a place in life where you can identify with an unrelated truth to your situation…that’s an honest just not getting it. We’ve all been there (my teen’s there now). Another is a matter of fixation and the truth stands in the way of your desires and/or fixation so you harden your heart and choose not to hear the matter. It’s the inconvenient truth… Read more »

Remember that in America everyone gets a second chance when they make a mistake…it’s the American way. Oh never mind…that doesn’t apply to sex offenders. Sure murder someone, pay your debt to society and you are free to go…live where you will….pursue the happiness that is a basic human right and certainly a principle that America was built on. But…get on that RSO list and it’s over for you. You are one of the marked ones. We might as well have 666 on our foreheads. We are marked for life…no one wants us to live next to them…ever. No second… Read more »

My heart feels for you! I am a female sex offender still on parole. I also have found a man that loves me for who I am and not for what society sees me as: a sex offender. My suggestion to you is to try to not to future-trip. I look at it as: just for today, I am a sex offender, or, just for today, I am on parole. You sound like a wonderful man and I trust in God that He will guide you as a father and proud parent. Do the next right thing and you will… Read more »

I feel for you. I am a sex offender on parole. I am a father of six. My youngest, my now ex wife and I,had to adopt rather than lose to CPS as a result of the trial I was enduring. The rest of my kids I can’t see because of my parole conditions, even though their mothers have no objection to my being in their lives. My children have had to defend themselves from verbal and physical attacks and I am directly responsible. I wonder if they resent me. I have been told my daughters want to see me… Read more »

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