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Wearing our scarlet letters [opinion]


When I was 18, I joined the military. The first stop for an enlisted member is, of course, Boot Camp!! At boot camp, for the first time, I saw some impressive men and women who had a unique job of breaking down 100 18-30 year olds and building them into a unique group of young men and women. It is, of course, deeper than that. The drill instructors are there to teach many things, like how to survive, to move forward without stopping, and they pick lives up where mom and dad left off. They have a unique and rewarding job that takes long hours, intensive training, and unbelievable devotion.

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There are so many things wrong with this article. At least in my view.
I will never be proud of what I did. I will never be proud to have a scarlet letter. I will never be proud to be part of the sex offender community.
I will however support any and all efforts that correct the injustices brought upon us by ignorant opportunity seeking politicians and their in humane laws.

I am not proud of my scarlet letter. It is a physical manifestation of my crime. It is a crime for which I have paid my debt and the scarlet letter is one among many laws preventing me from moving forward not just with my life, but as a human being.

It doesn’t matter if the conviction is already “public information” because it’s being used in a sinister and nefarious manner to purposely instill unwarranted concern and fear the populace. Being on the registry for TEN YEARS has turned me into a recalcitrant and staunch misanthropist. I’m 100% benign and innocuous, yet I’m forced to live a lie by being portrayed as the bad guy, enemy and villian of children. I use to enjoy life, now I just tolerate it.

Megan’s Law = fraud, deception and manipulation.

I will never, EVER own my label, settle or make peace with any of this.

I really believe that the main effect of the Registries is that they kill empathy and create extreme hatred for people and government. Based on the history of America, we all know that most people in it really aren’t decent humans, unless and only if it’s convenient for them. The Registries and associated witch hunt confirm that.

But don’t let Registry Terrorists take joy from your life. You should enjoy your life and do it at their expenses. I like to take all of my hatred and just compartmentalize it and direct it at the terrorists. That leaves me free to keep hate out of the rest of my great life. Remember every day to never do anything that could even conceivably help a Registry Terrorist. Help decent people only.

Motto of the Registry Terrorists – If it harms millions of children, it’s worth it. As long as it makes me feel good.

I understand completely but we need to remember that we are all as different as the experiences we have had, including the circumstances of our crimes. The one common denominator for all of us is simply that we were found guilty of a sex crime and now find ourselves marked for endless punishment and marginalization yet, that may be the only thing we have in common. Some really did not cause harm but were, instead, harmed. Others caused a great deal of harm. And then there is the continuum which exists in between those two extremes in which we are neither all-black nor all-white but some shade of gray. In retrospect, we all get to decide what our own behavior was and our culpability for past actions, if any. Hopefully, that perception will comport with reality so that we can be rational actors and intellectually as well as emotionally honest people.

Interesting article and good responses. Regarding this scarlet letter…I have done my part for what I was accused and convicted. I faced up, took responsibility for my actions, served the penalty given and have lived an austere, yet successful life. Many are in this same boat, we have done our part, it is the ongoing penalties, fear mongering and additional laws that legislators and society have put upon us. I’ve done my part to make things “right” but the powers that be have not. It directly affects me, yet it is their problem, not mine.

I like the positive attitude of the article but I disagree with the gist of it. I do not think people who are listed on a Nanny Big Government (NBG) Registry should worry about dedicating themselves to “our communities”. I also think “need to give more to society than any others” is completely wrong. F communities and society. Most people in them are awful, undeserving humans.

I have been listed on an NBG Registry for over 20 years. It is unacceptable and people who support it, the Registry Terrorists, are my mortal enemies. My main goal regarding the Registries is to ensure, literally every single day, that I never do anything that could even conceivably aid any Registry Terrorist. Of course that prevents giving to charities or volunteering for anything.

But I agree that people who are listed should be much better humans than the Terrorists. That is trivial to do. But a listed person should limit any aid, kindness, or respect that they give to only good, decent people who deserve it. Love people who deserve it. F the Terrorists.

I came across this quote and wanted to use it somewhere. Here is probably appropriate:
“The best revenge is to be unlike the one who performed the injustice.” – Marcus Aurelius
It is usually translated as “the best revenge is to be unlike your enemy” but that has a slightly different meaning, more like seeking retribution by being contrary or doing the opposite of what your enemy wants you to do or feel. The idea is to free ourselves from all bondage to the enemy.
I think there is a difference between being more justice minded and fair than your enemies and being different than them just out of spite. The latter is probably more satisfying, but the former brings you greater self worth.

You said a lot in such a short post. The quote, of course. And I like “free ourselves from all bondage to the enemy” and “difference between being more justice minded and fair than your enemies …”.

It all reminded me of the popular saying about holding onto grudges or hate is like taking poison and waiting for your enemy to die.

I have been very successful in my life and I am today. I don’t allow the Registries to affect that. It would be pretty easy for me to ignore them for the most part. The only things that actually affect me much are the international travel ban and the pain in the rear of domestic travel. But even just that is completely unacceptable and I’m going to treat people who support it as invalid people and war criminals.

And I’ve found out over the years that most people are simply just not good or decent, unless and only if it is convenient for them and makes them feel good. When I was born, there were laws that kept “coloreds” from sharing water fountains with the “good” people. And there are pretty much unlimited examples of similar stupidity in our country. THAT is what people in America are about. It’s not PC to hate “coloreds” today. They need to hate someone.

So I’m not going to worry about those people. I’m not going to give to charities because it might help those people. I used to give blood as often as I could. I haven’t done that for decades now. I don’t allow Amber alerts. Very long story short, I’m not going to do anything that might help a Registry Terrorist. Every single time I agree to purchase anything significant, I ask the seller what they think about the Registries. If I don’t like their answer I tell them and send them packing. I let people know why (or why not) I’m spending $50K or whatever with them.

I’m going to nurture my hate from the Registries but I’m not going to let it hurt me. And yet I’m going to be a much better, fairer, more giving, and decent person than any Registry Terrorist could be.

Am no fan of the military, which has become a tool of the deep state to invade and overthrow sovereign nations through murderous means, but am very happy reading these heart-felt comments. I might add that the one thing positive about persecution is that it makes you stronger. You will be more thoughtful and your heart gets bigger. Know it and claim it.
There is also a gem link on the page. Very nicely done!

I think
“living as a registrant ”
Should be changed to
‘Living beyond the label’
Thanks to

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