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Living with 290

Living with 290: The real walking Dead

I have been a RSO for many years now. I have over come so many adversities while growing up with disabilities. When I was young I couldn’t wait to become an adult so I wouldn’t be bullied anymore. I put my self through community college and learned a good trade. Got married and had a family.

And then I did the thing I never thought I couldn’t do. I was one of those. I used to think any one with that type of crime should be hung. I did everything in my power to make it right. But I had a spouse that always held things over my head. My disability leaves me at a disadvantage when it comes to relationships. But I m a dreamiest and I believe in doing what is right.

Pleaded guilty for two years but judge (along my attorney, no help. court appointed) gave me four to twenty years. Got my parole after the four years and two weeks before going home they took it away and gave me two more years (small town prosecutor got a favor of the parole board head guy). Lost my Mom in the four years then My brother in the two years. Never got to see them gain. Finally got out. In that amount of time my spouse was able to turned my kids against me, and my family. I wasn’t even allowed to go back to my town where I was sentenced. I was put into a Motel and still there. Cant rent. But my trade got me making good money. where I live and work shows that not all people are out to destroy you. There are some people that can see who you really are. Ive been trying to find a place to buy since I cant rent. But for respect to those who hate I wont buy where someone my loose home value because I live in the area. I was considered low risk both times when I got paroled.

If the registry is removed I could at least buy and not and not cause any issues where I am at. And also have some of the anxiety and embarrassment reduced. I have enough issues as it is with my disabilities any little bit would help.

So its funny in a way. Now that I’m an adult I wish I was a kid now. They say kids can be cruel, but grownups can be even crueler. I may be breathing and walking but with out Family and friends ( which I don’t have ether) I don’t feel truly alive. I’m the real walking dead. But I pray to God that this registry can be taken away and give us back just a little of our dignity, home and friends.

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Thank you for sharing your story.
I can relate on a few levels.

As for buying a house

“But for respect to those who hate I wont buy where someone my loose home value because I live in the area.”

Buddy, if they support the registry then they deserve however it affects them, too. Do yourself a favor and buy a house wherever you’ll feel comfortable and be a good neighbor. The best revenge on our detractors, IMHO, is living well!

Horrible, heart breaking, and awful…….but typical.

My friend just retired to Mexico and she said there is no registration there, if you served your time, then your done. I think only serious aggravated sex offenders should have to register, not ones that pose no risk at the lower levels.

I can’t make any judgement! Offense? Arrested for? Situation? Some of us where convicted 20 plus years ago/informed by a paid attorney we would not register once plea reduced to a misdemeanor? Your story is very vague.

And? The guy is very vague, takes no responsibility and seems to blame everyone? Yet, he mentions nothing about nothing? Nobody created this issue! People need to start saying, I screwed up, made a bad mistake and screwed my life up! I paid my debt to society/or fulfilled my obligations regarding probation and moved on. Yet, it’s about time the laws change and registration of the lifetime registration needs to be abolished! Get with the program. The guy made a mistake and I wish all the best to him! It sucks

Hey USA, damn boring without you here my friend. Lmao…. Where have you been? Licking your wounds from the last bout on here. LOL////

We can see who the spammers are now. Those haters who like take some of these blogs and turn them up side down. to bad there no one to banned these guys.
The issue is about someone doing there time, pays there restitution and gets off of parole but still has a life sentence. We have people that has a criminal history so long that you can tell that’s all they know to do. And when they get a chance will do it again. But no one can see them. No one knows who they are. Believe me some are sick and need to kept a watch on. But this why rubber stamping everyone coming out with a CSC is bad idea. Take a bath tub. Put black marbles in that show the bad ones, say about 200. Now everyone else on the registry are red. Put those in the tub and stir it up. Now how hard is it to find the black ones. There rubber stamp and the registry does not help.
And to those haters that always uses those terms ” not taking responsibility” or “Blaming others” when all there trying to do is show the corruption in the legal system. Most cases are over before court even starts. The make deals behind close doors like there trading stock. Favors owed, elections are coming up or just padding the stats to show cases won. So many want to judge others when all they do is stand on the fence line. If more people went through the system and see how it is when its your life on the line ( and some day it could be you) They would turn the “Justice” system around. Our families are being torn apart these days and that is the strength of our county. Any county. But where tearing ours apart.
There is no perfect way on how to keep an eye on someone. But there shouldn’t be someone always keeping an eye on us. That’s called freedom. And as we little by little keep eroding it away (the frog in a pot story) then we are all doomed.

The rule of thumb is that extreme reactions and hostile behaviors beyond expectations considered normal in a specific culture point to a personality disorder. I think that you guys are so sick, you don’t even realize it. Who on earth states I would bring my children around prostitutes and we should live in a lawless state because I broke the law? Get help guys. You clearly have both emotional and control issues.

Yawn! Thank you for all the support. My wobbler was reduced to a misdemeanor and expunged! I was definitely (was) a felon. I clearly don’t watch underage porn, have sex with underage little boys or girls and I don’t wack off to that stuff like many of you! It sounds like many of you are angry that you got caught and one of you stated you want to expose your kids (might have been Lomita post) to prostitutes? I’m concerned.

USA again. LMFAO. Remember people, I usually do not like calling out crimes but USA is a self admitted perv that would re-offend if it was not for the registry. He got off on a sexual battery-violent, against a prostitute in a message parlor. He skated with expungement and reduction because we all know that is how the world works. Now he comes on here and lectures and criticizes and points fingers at everyone else. Talk about not taking responsibility. He is a psyco-major. Just saying, lol.

It’s scientifically proven that most registered citizens don’t re-offend. Someone would have to be willfully ignorant to think most people on here are. That might be his situation, but it seems to me that he’s just mad, and wants to attack most people on this site. I’m not sure, but he might have been bullied, or at least feel he was bullied here, or some other place in life, and wants to attack people with no real world consequences to himself. In other words, he can secretly use others for his own desires to be fulfilled… He can tell himself, they deserve it. Sound like familiar behavior?

You guys clearly fit the cliche of predators. You attack those who don’t follow you? Sound familiar? Will Allen forgot to inform you that they where arrested/convicted of sodomizing an underage boy, twice arrested and has multiple probation violations. No wonder he is angry.

@USA

You must have missed my question:

What part of where he says “I used to think any one with that type of crime should be hung. I did everything in my power to make it right” do you not understand? How in the hell does that mean he “takes no responsibility and seems to blame everyone” ????

He took responsibility. He plead guilty. He blamed nobody for what he did.

I look forward to your response of explaining your statements and how you mis interpreted what he said to somehow mean the opposite.

What about you Steveo? Child porn, child molestation, oral with a minor and how many parole violations? You guys are predators and lash out at those who oppose your views and simply convey a thought? Your angry, hostile, an admitted child predator and Will Allen has admitted that they now (in past comments) they continue their ways, but just more carefully? We have one guy who even stated they would have no issues brining (way out there) children around prostitutes? Are you going to train them as well? Remember, people read your sick comments. You are truly real life predators who seem to have a lot of time on your hands and seem to be out looking for your next fix! Go ahead and write a 20 page response, but I’m going to work. Get some help! Get healthy and STOP being defensive. Learn to listen!

@ Will, ” I really believe that USA has some mental problems. Perhaps he is not even close to average intelligence and really struggles with it. I do believe that. So perhaps he is trying to contribute/participate and that is the only way he is able?”

You stated this before and I agreed and still do. IDK why, but I feel sorta sorry for him. He must not have anyone or anything in life that he truly cares about or that cares about him. The sad part is that he supposedly has 4 degrees, albeit in pseudo science psychology, and this makes him think that he is somehow superior to others or has the ability to psychoanalyze individuals and feels nothing is wrong with himself. My ex-wife is the same way, she thinks she is above others because she has a masters in psych when she is one of the stupidest people I have ever met with absolutely no common sense whatsoever. So, people don’t let USA’s rants get you angry, he is a troll without enough intelligence to communicate effectively with others so he resorts to hate tactics. Like I have stated before, there is nothing he can say as he is a self admitted re-offender if it was not for him being on the registry. And he is probably one of the ones who will be getting relief, that should worry the message parlor employees at minimum.

I’m not surprised by how much control I have over you! Mike R has shown he is unable to deal with other views or opinions. You have exhibited ALL of the personality traits common among sex offenders! I hung a tiny carrot and you showed the poor impulse control that’s made you the repeat child molester you are! Your anger, desire to belittle and wanting to put others down confirms all of this. I hope that your lashing out and desire to belittle your victims helps. Pleaseeeee get help. Your clearly way more intelligent then myself (search for the typos/grammar errors on this blog) to support your superior yourself. Deep down, your a very insecure little man

Serious issues USA, for having any degrees let alone 4 you could not be more wrong with your diagnosis. Your pseudoscience is just that. Your education and degrees are a joke. You are a joke. And I have to remind myself, mentally challenged. But that is no excuse as there is nothing wrong with being mentally challenged, it’s who you are as a person matters. You are definitely no one I would want to know.

“Your clearly way more intelligent then myself (search for the typos/grammar errors on this blog)”
You clearly do not even know what makes someone intelligent, it sure as hell is not typos or not.

@USA states, “to inform you that they where arrested/convicted”====”to support your superior yourself”

Typos, lmfao…. By your own measurement you are not the sharpest tool in the shed I guess.

As noted, Mike R sounds obsessed with defending himself. Notice he didn’t defend the fact that is a multiple/repeat pedophile? Disturbing.

I will not get sucked into this, I will not get sucked into this. Repeat and rinse.

OMG people…. please stop it with the personal attacks and accusations. Use your time and energy to fight FOR us, not AGAINST us.

Ok, USA, this is the 3rd time I am posting this without a response. If you are as intelligent as you say I would think you could actually respond and help us understand how you interpret things differently than everyone else.

Here it is again:

@USA

You must have missed my question:

What part of where he says “I used to think any one with that type of crime should be hung. I did everything in my power to make it right” do you not understand? How in the hell does that mean he “takes no responsibility and seems to blame everyone” ????

He took responsibility. He plead guilty. He blamed nobody for what he did.

I look forward to your response of explaining your statements and how you mis interpreted what he said to somehow mean the opposite.

Man you are really gone USA,
“Serious issues USA, for having any degrees let alone 4 you could not be more wrong with your diagnosis.”
Think that kind of refuted everything you stated. Everything about me and my offense is online and out there in my court docs I have filed. I am done with him people……. Dude is to far gone to reach….

Stalkers, I have 5 degrees pedophile possy

I think USA has an overwhelming urge to think of himself as “separate” or “unique” from quote-unquote sex offenders.

Unfortunately, that is not objectively true, and society sure as hell doesn’t see it as true either.

USA, you will find inner peace and serenity when you accept that you are one of us, and the particulars of your specific case cannot put you in a position of higher moral authority or cleanliness.

To the OP:
I’ve been in your shoes. I remember being paroled and being stuck in a run down motel because I had no other options. I have both good and bad news: Things will be exactly as you believe. I know a ton of sex offenders who have absolutely shitty lives. They live in group homes, have no friends or family, do nothing with their lives, etc.
But, I also know plenty of people for whom being on the registry doesn’t even impact their daily life in the slightest.
But, it is 100% up to you. It is NOT up to the state/country repealing the registry. Get that nonsense out of your head. It’s probably not going to ever happen. Can changes be made? Sure. The team here does a great job advocating for us in court, but we are NOWHERE NEAR getting the registry removed. So, if you base your hope on that, you’re going to have problems.
Just accept that the registry is what it is and move on. Renting is an option. I’ve done it. Many other RSOs have as well. Buying is also an option but not if you live in fear of maybe kinda sorta bothering someone or affecting their property value. Get this idea of ‘respect’ for some vague potential neighbor and decide that you’re going to respect yourself enough to do what is best for you.
Jobs, housing, law enforcement interactions, etc. are almost entirely up to you and what you make of them. They can be completely paralyzing or they can be a minor nuisance at worse. The choice is yours. Take ownership of your situation and figure out how to take steps forward to improve your life. The world doesn’t act on you — you act on the world. Get out there and make it happen.

Good luck!

Poor, poor USA. Man I feel for individuals like that and try to understand and show some empathy, but damn he sure makes it hard and not even worth it as there is no reasoning with his mindset. I barely even come on here anymore except to read the post, and low and behold every time I see USA he is insulting and attempting to belittle any and every one on here. Sad dude.

@MikeInSolCal, Thanks Mike its nice to see some positive post on this. And I agree, “Sex offender” does not define who we are. But what we do with our lives is what defines who we are ( i hope that wasn’t a batman pun? ;} ) But its true. I have been blessed with opportunities and made the best of them. I work hard and have a moral work ethic. People notice that and customer react positive to it.
As for law enforcement, they leave me alone. There not like some cities. I feel like there aware of my situation and don’t harass me. I would like to find a place in this county. Its treated right so far.
But there still that feeling deep deep in the soul that things just aren’t right. I feel I’m not whole and I’m sure a lot of us feel that way, even when things are going good. Until we can live without the registry will be a positive. I want people to know that. Those people who are still on the fence about the whole thing.
I’m one of those that had a lot s– thrown at them in life. some self inflected i might add. But somehow was always moving forward. Until now. This has been a very high hurdle to over come
Our Constitution Says we have a right to the pursuit of happiness and ti live in freedom, but we don’t. I’m just saying if where not given these God given, Constitutionally protected rights then I’m a dead man walking. Its just something you feel
But I can tell you have family or friends now. And someday I’ll have them too. I’m keeping my eye on the light at the end of the tunnel. The registry taken away or my final day. Which ever comes first.
But I Am fortunate. God Blessed. :]

I have contacted politicians, “investigative journalists”, family, friends, and many others who give me apathy, sadism, circular logic, or well wishes. They don’t see their lack of civic responsibility and balanced justice is a death knell for their own freedoms in the not-too-distant future.

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