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Life as a Registered Sex Offender: What Is It Really Like?

This article is split into three parts: offense and registration; family, friends, and romance; and work and recovery. Part one, with questions on the offense and the registration process, is presented below. Full Article

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For me personally, I feel as though my life is under attack 24/7 because my future, safety, privacy and security has been hijacked and under siege and is being held hostage under a “compliance” or prison ultimatum. No such thing as moving on or starting over. The smoke never clears. No such thing as damage control. There is no silver lining because you’re constantly being tried in the court of public of opinion 24/7. As long as the public sentiment is: “I want to know where these people live,” expect nothing to change. What Is It Really Like? It’s a… Read more »

registry rage ,,, well said , it truly is hard to look at the future when we are still being punished for our past , in many case’s for many years , dragging our family’s in the dung of uninformed haters , as well as unrelenting laws being stacked on top of another stack of laws in the whole dang country , we cant even move anywhere to leave our past behind , we see the lives of others living free enjoying there family’s , the whole time trying to keep our heads up only to see our family feeling… Read more »

It politic. We all know this is failed system. The registry is just a hoax. Making public fell safe. Wile they are predators out ther fucking everything up. We just brand for no reason, but public satisfaction. Base on statistics, most oftener don,t reoffend. Just politicians, that all it is.

It truly is a dead end life for me. I wake up in the mornings and wonder why I even should get up. Each day is a repeat of the previous one. Constantly seeing and hearing reminders of a life no longer. Even smells take me to places I will no longer be able to go to. I look at morning skies and wish for night to fall so that the darkness will deliver me from the pain of my memories. I think of ways to end this at least as many times as I breath a day. I hear… Read more »

@Counting the days:
Hang in there, friend. Though none of us knows your exact plight, we can all empathize with that feeling of dread and inability to escape. Please try to take heart that the courts are continuing to tip in our favor. Justice moves slowly, but all the latest signs indicate it’s finally moving our way.

Thx. I see so much hypocracy everyday. Example: Today I was checking channels and there in plain site for every child to see, ” 18yo big boobs splattered with large loads”. Xfinity can put titles like this on T.V. and it’s not even discussed, but I see a pic of girls that end up being underage and I am marked for life as a pervert. It’s the same as letting drug dealers off, but condemning the person that smokes a joint. I recall that S.A.A. says not to feel shame, but what else is there. I cringe if I even… Read more »

Try not to think that way. You must be newly released and younger. The feelings I’m sure are super string. Fight it. You can win and avoid this end pitfall. Their is light at end of the tunnel. Things change and if you fight this you will see Life ahead and reason ahead for staying alive.

Try not to think that way. You must be newly released and younger. The feelings I’m sure are super string. Fight it. You can win and avoid this end pitfall. Their is light at end of the tunnel. Things change and if you fight this you will see Life ahead and reason ahead for staying alive.

I’ve been on the registry for 19 years and it’s only gotten worst. I cant find a place to live. I live in a shelter. There no way out. I’ve looked over my shoulder for many years. I was told if I miss a registration date I go back to prison. Until you walk in our shoes you have nothing to say.

Brother, I am a sex offender too. You are right about a great many things, I have been where you are at. The bad news, it’s true that you never escape it and your life is changed and affected forever. The good news, it DOES get easier. As time goes by, memories fade, record checks for jobs often only go back 7 years. I took me about a decade to get to a good spot but I’m glad I held on and believe me, I was really close to suicide. My advice: Get plenty of exercise. An iron body fosters… Read more »

I am here if you need to talk my email is nikitawing02@gmail.com.

1 count of indecent exposure 25 years ago. Was spotted by adult witness while urinating in public area. I was messed up at the time. I had just quit doing drugs for a year and was not mentally in a good place. I was identified and called into the DA’s office. I was embarrassed and denied the accusations at first but in about 5 minutes I agreed that it may have been me. I was ashamed by my reckless public actions. When asked if I had done this before, I responded yes, several times I have urinated in public. The… Read more »

Yes it is. Especially when you didn’t do everything they said you did in court. I text a 16 yo girl I met online and never even saw in person. That’s all. Yes we traded nude pics and videos. I never forced or hurt no one. I cared as much as I could about someone I only knew via text. I don’t feel it warrants ruining my life. Now because I have gotten behind on my payment for restitution for damaging a hospital I assume, and probation fees I am told that I may have to attend a probation hearing.… Read more »

It doesn’t matter. The government is nothing but scum bag. Live your life until the end. How long do you have on this earth? 10 year maybe more. So just go along. You know deep down inside there another world out there, better than this one we on right now. I believe strongly in the god of universe. Jesus Christ. God in the flesh. In my heart, he is the way the truth, and the life. Do your homework. Eternal life. Or a moment of pleasure on this filthy earth.!

@ Counting the Days I have been dealing with this crap since March 12, 1991, n one form or another. There r days that I wish I could just slap someone, there r more days that I’m grateful I didn’t! It does get easier with time. I have learned that I define who I am, not other people. Some people’s opinion I value & listen to, even they do not define me. I have discovered who I am, & who I am not. U have that strength, I can hear it with ur words. Once u have come to terms… Read more »

Yeah

I went on a adult chat site I was currently in a relationship with a step child who ment the world to me but I was suffering depression and went on a 18 chat site but someone pretended to be a minor and I went and met them but I didn’t see the minor age they put then my partner contacted me saying wat I had done so I went to the police on my own accord to sort it out I was put in a cell and charged to the appear at court the solicitor said plead guilty as… Read more »

Here is some food for thought https://www.hrw.org/reports/2007/us0907/10.htm

the system was designed for failure, I learned that the hard way. Did 10 yrs, and still married to my victim. Lol,been over 25yrs now n still registering. Thank the God’s I’m disabled now, no more work,living inna tent. The system made me what I am today, a criminal, subhuman. Thats right people, a subhuman.

Picture being chased off every job you are fortunate enough to get , refused every job that does illegal background checks (most all) then told by a court due to back child support you will go to jail if you don’t get employment. (The court accepting no excuses other than you being a worthless deadbeat) After 29 years of registration and no further trouble it’s still just like the year I was convicted, might as well have been yesterday. No friends, no relationship, few (labor level) jobs and a court that wants your ass.

Man ive been living this shit since the day I turned 18 years old I was slaved as a child forces pay my dad’s bills if I didn’t manage to keep up with school an work I got my guts kicked in thin met this girl we hang put i move in with her an her mom iam 16 we never really messed around well she turning 17 iam turning 18 she found out she having my baby I get a great job clearing 3500 a week building plants for ethinal. I did that for while we have the baby… Read more »

As someone who literally had serious mental issues at the time and lost everything because I couldn’t afford a competent attorney to defend me I find the American judicial system a joke. I have in the last few years met true sex offenders and they freak me the hell out. I am an eagle scout, I’ve saved 13 lives in my 49 years on this earth, I defended this country, I worked my ass off without a single handout to be a productive member of society. With 2 emails and 2 texts to an undercover detective, that contacted me not… Read more »

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