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Kat’s Blog: Sometimes A Song Is Just A Song

Baby It’s Cold Outside.

It was just a wintery song from the late forties, nothing more. A song that’s been sung during the Christmas holidays for decades. Generations grew up singing along with the radio, no one ever had issues with it. That is until now.

Now it’s the latest moral holiday debate. The victim of a # movement.

Someone or some group decides they don’t like the sound of those lyrics, that the lyrics foster a pro- rape, sexist attitude in our society. And just like that, thousands of men, women and children across the country jump on the proverbial bandwagon and demand the song be banned from the airwaves.

It’s just a song people. The lyrics aren’t and never were anything more than back and forth flirtations. I’ve read and re-read the lyrics. They’re only questionable if you read something into them that wasn’t their original intention. If you twist and pick apart the lyrics to suit whatever #movement you want to defend, sure, then anyone can make these lyrics or any other song lyrics seem offensive to some group or other.

I can’t believe Baby It’s Cold Outside was ever meant to create all this havoc or to be somebody’s latest sexist #movement. It’s just a song.

The registry is a lot like this song debate.

It was designed for one thing but thanks to a few misguided individuals with their own agendas, it has been pulled apart, twisted and bent out of shape until it’s become something totally unrecognizable from its original intent. A now infamous Psychology Today magazine article, a few misinformed politicians and a host of other characters jumped on a bandwagon declaring all “sex offenses” will henceforth be considered equally punishable by shaming on a public registry. That’s all it took, some ill-informed people whose combined voices were louder than those of the registrants. And here we are today. Registrants aren’t banned from the airwaves, but they are banned from a lot of places. And if we don’t speak up, in a unified voice, the banning will just continue to expand.

Just like the song in question, the original intent of the registry was quickly suppressed by some nay-sayers promoting their own agendas. The registry designed for law enforcement to monitor the most serious offenders has long since disappeared. In its place is a registry now built on twisted facts, misinformation, untruths and unfounded fears, all because a few people spoke up loudly and others blindly jumped on a bandwagon to show unquestioned solidarity even when they didn’t understand the facts.

As registrants and families of registrants, make 2019 the year we stand up and speak up for ourselves, educate and inform others to make the true plight of registrants across this country known. If we don’t, if we sit back thinking “someone else will do it for me”, then just like this song, we all risk being banned from more places than we have already been banned.


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