Living with 290: Don’t give up

I have been really touched by all the Story’s and family tragedy’s I have read here! I think you are all brave for sharing your stories. I can relate to all of you and I can relate to the negatives! I was always on the other side looking in, until it happened to me!

I am from San Francisco, and 25 years ago, I was a San Francisco Police officer. And one night changed my life forever and in one hour of stupidity!

I am now a RSO! I have only myself to blame for being naive and stupid and now I pay the price.

Everybody is human and don’t ever forget that! I have a wife and five adult children, 4 being girls. Even though my case had to do with corruption, murder, gangs and extortion, the fact remains I am here now speaking to you. I use to be Pro law, until this happened to me.

A lot of the stories I have heard on this site are very similar. I know a lot of you were forced to take a deal or you were convicted of a crime from the Penal code that is not even close to what happened to you! The State Laws need to me modified or changed.

There are pedophiles and then there are Sex offenders! EG: A John is arrested for soliciting a prostitute or was caught in sexual activity and had to take a deal and have to register for life! A Pedophile is ? You know where I am going with that and I am sorry I do not condone Pedophiles what so ever! But, I do not believe a pedophile should be a target.

And those of you who were convicted of being with a 14 year old going on 25 and didn’t know better is just that! I won’t judge you! I see this every day going on. My own 16 year old daughter had a boyfriend 25! Of course I put a stop to it, I was protective but not mean! I wouldn’t wish this insanity on anybody!

There are People who believe in you! former district attorneys and retired judges.

All this being said, Keep your head up! you are not scum of the earth! I have a great support group and this is what gets me by!

If you need advice or want to talk, I am here to listen to you without judging and I will help you out as much as possible! Cheers!

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Since you were once the law, know hard corrupted and twisted the laws are, with all you see and know and also experienced, why would’t you use your knowledge in your past law field and experience and also your influence with police and goverment officials to look and try to change registration based on case by case instaed of all for one, of course people see you as the bad guy now but in many views of the people, there is a great shortage of heros now (badge or no badge)

thanks for telling your story , I learn new things every day I come to this site , the boogy man really is out there but its not likely that you will find him on some witch hunting site, but monsters do use these 290 sites to harm people that are RSO , good luck you and yours

There should be no lifetime registration. There should always be a way to be removed simply due to the variables of different circumstances.

Just as with ALL crimes they are committed by individuals and should be treated as such.

One size fits all is fine for bathrobes but not when playing GOD with people’s lives!

That is simply lazy, stupid, cruel, and evil. PERIOD

Thanks for posting this. It is refreshing to see someone who has been on the other side of the law realize how corrupt the system is. It would be nice to put that first hand knowledge to use somehow. Let those who need to know know what is really going on behind the scenes. Even if it just changes a few people’s perspective, it would be a good start to bringing sanity back to this country.

Thank you for this post. I have been dealing with a lot in my life lately. Seems that things are turning around finally. It appears I got into after care at CPC just in time. Here the office has been targeted by the public. It started one day as a group of us “clients” were walking into the building, a man walking down the street threatened one of us yelling profanitiesvand SO slurs saying he would kill us all. Of course CPC did nothing. Then a few weeks later another man was sitting in the courtyard by the bathrooms and asking everyone which suite they were there for. Said he was going to catch every weirdo from CPC and gestured a gun sign with his hand and pointed to his waist where there was a bulge. We were told to answer anyone asking about why we were there with a lie to protect ourselves and told to get down on the floor if we ever hear gunshots. Over the next couple of months there were vandalusms of the building like spray painting die cho mo’s and a broken window. Was there ever any idea that maybe they were putting us in danger? If so, we weren’t told, and groups went on as usual. Two weeks ago I was placed in after care and since the building has been shot. Guess what? Yep, they are still having groups. I expect to getba call anytime to be assigned to my after care group where I will only have to be ib danger once a month. Sure speaks to the motives of CPC (money) and CDCR (wish we were all dead). Gotta love the system. I am told when ever I want to do something that it would be best if I just accept it and it will be a lit easier. That is of course easy for those who don’t actually live this nightmare, even if they are empathetic. Truth is they hear our complaints, while they may help us in some regards, maybe even fight battles with us, they get to go back to their normal lives. We have no escape, no reprieve. We must endure day in and day oyt 24/7 365. So my point is, with all that is thrown at us, it was nice to hear something positive. Of course sounds likevI rained on the parade. Sorry

LJ said ” Un the end, I have to remind myself that it is I who put myself here. ”

You put yourself in the original position. But you didn’t void yourself and your family from the protections of the US Constitution. Your actions did not void the Constitution for everyone, as the anti-registrant law proponents at FaceBook would like to have eventually happen or at least void the Constitution for other groups which surely will happen and is already happening. Sexual Deviants in Nazi Germany sexually deviated but did not put themselves to death. The Nazi’s did that. It is a very dangerous precedent for Americans to accept these breachs on the US Constitution involving cruel and unusual punishment. According to Rasbbi Shmuel Boteach, it is wrongheaded for Jews to accept the Nazi-like precedent in the US of banning classes of people, in this case in this current proposal , muslims, from our country. In my opinion, it’s also deplorable to accept special markings on passports, denying the right to escape persecution. For any Jew to advocate for this is an insult to the memory of those who died and says a lot about the person and their agenda. To put a successful company by your name that you work for, even if you’re in the janitorial or H/R department, makes that company look evil for the Hitleresque content expressed, but also makes that company look ridiculous by riddling your comment with typo’s and misinformation.

CDCR is California dept of corrections and rehabilitation.
CPC was described in a later post

Also my hub is on parole in CA. As was stated, contact with LE that isnt reported within (I think its 24 hrs) could be considered a parole violation. If you are being victimized it should be reported. Regardless.

I also used to be pro law. Not so much now. I’d have a hard time calling LE unless it was absolutely necessary. In the old days, you would see a cop and think. Oh, good. Im safe. Now I see one and get nervous.
It is sort of sad.

As is all of this.


It makes my heart sing when a official that helped create or enforce Sex Offender Laws gets put on the list, and then cry foul when they realize just how unfair and cruel their laws are.
I welcome them to my nightmare with open arms.

Michael A. Lewis Sr.

Just in case anyone wonders why I would welcome them, here is why;
They are the crafters and defenders of these laws and so they have the knowledge and ability to destroy what they themselves created.
But in the meantime they have to live in a nightmare they created.

Thank you for your message, it encourages me. I have felt alone for the past six years dealing with life as a rso. I’m really happy to have found a place like this to get support and to become a part of a group willing to work toward helping our circumstance.

Location : SoCal

I’m hoping someone might have some advice for me. I am looking for information on parole requirements in California for sex offenders. Also, after care providers in Orange County. My son will be released soon from New Hampshire DOC and I am overwhelmed. I have found it very difficult to find info on what to do and what his requirements will be when he comes home. I want to try to provide the smoothest transition possibly but it seems that there are so many obstacles. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.